For instance, if you struggled with infertility, finally got pregnant after years, had a scary pregnancy full of issues and specialists, and then finally had a baby who cried all the time and turned into a rambunctious toddler - you would probably still just be thanking God Almighty that you had the chance to bring this crazy person into the world. It's all about your context and the life experience you bring to the table.
I have made no secret that I kind of fall into both camps. Naturally, I think my child is special and unique and brilliant. But she is also stubborn, can become fixated, frequently does naughty things just for attention, and already tries to boss me around.
|She's starting her own small business and needed to make some contacts.|
With Vicki, I do a special version of this schema where I think, How will this overdone strength benefit her as an adult?
For example: she is unbearably persistent. "No" does not mean "no" in her world. "No" just means keep asking or trying until you can do what you want. Someday, if I don't "break" her of this habit, she will be able to bore through any brick wall put in front of her relationally or professionally.
|Thought her choice of a mule was so apropos! |
She is stubborn as one.
Isn't this fun?? It just makes me want to have a kaleidoscope I can peer into and see the future - just a glimpse. When you have a "special" day with your toddler, try it out!
How do you re-frame your expectations of toddler behavior? How do you refocus when the day isn't going how you'd like?